Collaborative Divorce Support & Rates
Trauma-Informed Divorce Coaching, Parenting & Family Specialist
Separation can be a time of profound transformation.
As a trauma-informed mental health professional working in Collaborative Law, I support individuals and families through the complexities of family reshaping and divorce with care, clarity, and respect. Grounded in decolonial values, I honor the diverse ways people create, sustain, and reimagine relationships. Whether you're navigating co-parenting, family life, restructuring your relationship, or moving forward on your own, I offer a non-adversarial, culturally responsive space where emotional safety, collaboration, and healing guide the process. Together, we work toward outcomes that support the dignity and well-being of all involved.
Reach out to schedule a consultation and take the first step toward a more compassionate path forward.
I provide culturally-competent care for: couples (affirming care for non-monogamous relationships, relationships anarchists++), and 2SLGBTQIA+/queer community.
Telehealth and in-person sessions available in downtown Bellingham, WA.
Collaborative divorce is a respectful, non-adversarial process that helps separating partners resolve legal, emotional, and practical issues outside of court. Each person works with their own attorney, and the team may also include neutral professionals such as a divorce coach, financial specialist, or child and family specialist—depending on the needs of the family. Together, the team creates a safe and structured space to address concerns, improve communication, and reach mutually agreed-upon solutions. The goal is to reduce conflict, protect relationships, and support the well-being of everyone involved—especially children—through a cooperative, forward-looking process.
Fee per 60 min: $200
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) can be a powerful tool for people going through divorce because it helps process and integrate distressing memories and emotions that often arise during such a major life transition. Here’s how it can help specifically:
1. Processing Traumatic Experiences
Divorce can be experienced as a trauma, especially if it involves betrayal, abuse, or sudden abandonment. EMDR helps the brain reprocess these memories so they no longer trigger intense emotional or physiological responses.
2. Reducing Emotional Overwhelm
EMDR targets core beliefs and emotions—like shame, fear, anger, or inadequacy—that are often activated during divorce. It helps individuals move from “I’m unlovable” or “I failed” to more adaptive beliefs like “I did my best” or “I can move forward.”
3. Improving Co-Parenting and Communication
By calming emotional reactivity and healing past hurts, EMDR can improve a person’s ability to manage difficult interactions with an ex-spouse, especially in co-parenting situations.
4. Addressing Root Issues
Divorce often brings up unresolved wounds from earlier in life (e.g., childhood neglect, insecure attachment). EMDR can help resolve these, leading to greater emotional resilience and healthier future relationships.
5. Reclaiming a Sense of Control and Hope
EMDR supports people in developing a more coherent narrative of their experience, allowing them to regain agency, self-trust, and a hopeful outlook about life post-divorce.
Fee per 60 min session: $150